What does it mean to dress for yourself?
So this was inspired by a thread yesterday on how to dress to attract more women, and a mod told me this belongs here: what exactly do people mean by dressing for yourself?
I'm betting the majority of men do not grow up with much investment in self-care things, whether that's fashion, hygiene, etc. Moreover, I'm betting a lot of men that develop the urge to dress better are externally motivated (ie the "lonely men" type who don't want to be single). Which makes sense to me - fashion as a means to an end.
But what does it mean to dress for yourself? Isn't the whole point of dressing well to make yourself more appealing to other people? You could say it improves your internal self-confidence, but you get the self-confidence boost because you'd know that you're more conventionally attractive, and that therefore people will like you by default.
You could apply this to pretty much any self-improvement thing by the way, like fitness, hobbies, whatever. To me, the overarching issue is that we're social creatures, and everything else is downstream of that. There's a general attitude of "you need to do things for yourself" which is what I'm trying to explore here. Pic vaguely related.
I'm betting the majority of men do not grow up with much investment in self-care things, whether that's fashion, hygiene, etc. Moreover, I'm betting a lot of men that develop the urge to dress better are externally motivated (ie the "lonely men" type who don't want to be single). Which makes sense to me - fashion as a means to an end.
But what does it mean to dress for yourself? Isn't the whole point of dressing well to make yourself more appealing to other people? You could say it improves your internal self-confidence, but you get the self-confidence boost because you'd know that you're more conventionally attractive, and that therefore people will like you by default.
You could apply this to pretty much any self-improvement thing by the way, like fitness, hobbies, whatever. To me, the overarching issue is that we're social creatures, and everything else is downstream of that. There's a general attitude of "you need to do things for yourself" which is what I'm trying to explore here. Pic vaguely related.
