Have body dysmorphic disorder and need general help/advice.
Hey guys. I have BDD and I've always struggled finding clothes and getting them to fit correctly. I keep very fit and I'm nearing what I think I'd like to be my "final" size at a lean 190 lbs @ 6'0 ft tall. I think there's a lot of opportunity for things to go wrong in an outfit when you have muscles and a very dysphoric/inconsistent view of yourself, how things fit, and how certain looks come across. One thing I've been hearing is that I have a very incongruent look, between my body, personality, and my style. I think I'm between most conventional sizes in that most "large" garments off the rack don't fit me at all, and feel baggy and long in the arms, and medium clothes also don't fit, as they are often very tight in the shoulders and upper back area. I've been leaning a lot on knitted clothing lately because it feels less rigid when it's slightly too small.
Pants are a complete nightmare as well, because they either never fit in a way that I feel comfortable in, or if they do, they don't pair well with the shoes or boots I want to wear with them. I honestly don't even know where to start. I don't have any photos because I often can't stand the way I look - but more importantly, I don't think I'd recognize a good, fitting outfit on myself if I didpull one off.
I guess I'm just wondering how to start fixing this problem. Is there a service I can pay for to help me with this? I've considered going to a tailor many times but I don't know what to say or ask or to what extent they could help.
Pants are a complete nightmare as well, because they either never fit in a way that I feel comfortable in, or if they do, they don't pair well with the shoes or boots I want to wear with them. I honestly don't even know where to start. I don't have any photos because I often can't stand the way I look - but more importantly, I don't think I'd recognize a good, fitting outfit on myself if I didpull one off.
I guess I'm just wondering how to start fixing this problem. Is there a service I can pay for to help me with this? I've considered going to a tailor many times but I don't know what to say or ask or to what extent they could help.
