Help with cute queer clothes now that I feel like myself
Open to all suggestions, especially from trans, lesbian and queer perspectives!
I had top surgery at the end of last year and while that has helped me immensely with feeling good about myself, it has also left me in a strange place style wise. Before surgery I gravitated towards ways of minimizing or hiding my body (big, boxy, baggy), I felt strongly that any curve of my body was to be hidden or suppressed. But now that I've addressed the root of the problem I find myself interested in more fitted silhouettes. I wore this suit to a wedding earlier this year (I know the pants are flared and it's not the most fitted thing ever, but it's the most fitted thing I've worn in years) and it made me realize I want to experiment with more playful/ (sexy?)/ fun/gay/ fitted clothing.
I guess what I'm trying to ask is for direction in coming back to womenswear/ fitted clothing after ignoring it for years on end. Or if anyone has had a similar experience and how they moved forward? I'm not looking to change everything about my wardrobe (I still like my big shirts), but I feel ready to come back to pieces/ideas/inspo/advice/whatever that i would have run away from for being too "girly"/femme/womenswear/ fitted.
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congrats on ur journey(:
My gender has always been fucked and I used to be terrified of masc silhouettes, but then i started lifting and put on 110lbs and everything changed and now its something I'm actively exploring more of! Its a really cool and fun part of the journey imo because a lot of stuff i had previously closed myself off to is now open.
heres a kyn post for brands i think u should check out, sorry it isn't formatted at all that's just how they type(:
i'm in a similar place myself! i think kyn's post that carrion linked above is a great start. i've also started more deliberately seeking out womenswear inspo and including it in my inspiration folder--even if its stuff i don't necessarily see myself wearing that exact fit (said folder includes a Selkie runway dress, for example), it helps me think through what speaks to me, what excites me, and how i can sneak those ideas into my fits
also a matter of putting shit on, i think--when i'm out shopping lately i tend to touch and try on more and more things that i would normally hesitate about, just to see how it looks on my body & gauge my emotional reactions. it can be a fraught shift so i'm making sure i really feel good about it.
hope this makes sense and/or is helpful ..!!
This makes total sense, ty! The dressing room has been a big scary place for me for a long time, but you are right I need to just get in there.
that suit looks awesome by the way
you're probably familiar with her but recent ann demeulemeester collections have been great sources of inspo for the times that i want to carefully pick & choose pieces of a fitted silhouette while staying pretty far in the flowy/big clothing lane
This is great, ty! the ann reminder is good; I find it cosmically hilarious that the stuff I liked when I was in girlmode but the pushed away gets to come back into my life again
Really love the first image. Never in my life have I considered a structured garment through the torso but now I'm looking at corset adjacent stuff thinking "maybe??"
i find it exceedingly difficult to put corsets or belts over tailoring but that's something she does very very well
I ended up wearing shape wear with that suit above (so obvs wasn't visible) but was surprised by how good it felt to have defined waist
I imagine it's challenging to implement, but think it's what really kicked off this line of inquiry in the first place
aw i missed this hi ilya
largely agree w everything above and there are a few folks here who are really plugged in who could help guide the way a bit more
in addition to the stuff in my list above u could always check out some of these, some are more or less wide or feminine but do stuff well many of which i’m sure ur aware of
junya
hodakova
cdg
sacai
uma wang
black crane
ann demeulemeester
rick
yume yume
vivienne
rombaut
kijun
ganni
marni
misbhv
jacquemus
maryam nassir zadeh
marine serre
miu miu
knwls/charlotte knowles
dion lee
jpg/gaultier
isabel marant
batsheva
thom browne
prada gucci dior etc
ovate
notperfectlinen mby
issey
miss sixty
cop copine
custo barcelona
courreges
agnes b
cos
jil sander
balenci
avavav
alaia
flore flore
alc
kim shui
cherevichkiotvichki
margiela
puppets and puppets
lirika matoshi
for love n lemons, anthro, reformation, favorite daughter
paloma wool
skims, alo
hyein seo
chika kisada
kokun.in
nodress
a bunch of smaller jp designers im blanking on the names of rn but will get together, have more stuff but this will prob get u started!
def recommend putting together inspo
feel free to hmu w measurements n inspo, i can dig thru any saves i have on depop or ebay or whatever that might be ur bag!
congrats @ilya i will watch ur career w great interest
what a beautiful list, thank you so much! really it means a lot 🥹
i've been casually scrolling through resale sites lately so this give me a great sense of direction. i had plans to go through the screenshot this weekend and pull inspo and now there is to much more to do! its nice to feel excited about getting dressed again. so glad i joined this server; not to sound too melodramatic but (despite everything) i feel excited about the future
I will also post that I have nothing productive to add but your fits definitely make their way into my brain and this direction you’re exploring is super cool and I’m excited to see how you realize it
you are far too kind; i'm so encouraged