Looking for any general fashion advice or style that would be complimentary to me
40m looking to be fasionable/acctractive for the first time in my life. Been overweight forever, so all new to me. Any advice is welcome! Thank you so much!
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Hi @bb_nin! The best way to get a good answer is to ask a great question.
Please consider including:
- Reference pictures of things you like or are looking for. The more the better!
- Pictures of you wearing things if you have fit questions.
- A specific budget in numbers. “Affordable" means different things to different people.
- Specific measurements: Chest and waist are far more useful than height and weight.
- Measurements of your favourite fitting clothing. Learning these measurements will go a long way in helping you shop online and secondhand!
- Whether you're happy to buy secondhand.
- Whether you prefer to buy in person or are open to shopping online.
- Your vague location, especially if that limits your options because of customs or access to stores. A country or continent is helpful.
- Timescales: Do you need something urgently, or can you wait for the right thing at the right price?
Also, please use the search function to see if a similar question has already been asked!
Go to #waywt #waywt-highlights and #inspiration - save a ton of photos you like. Post them here. Answer the questions in @Clark'sDesertBot post above. Congrats on getting to a place you're happy with 👌
I am in the Pacific Northwest, I typically like fitted clothing, but not tight. I am 6'5 about 260 right now, down from 330. Hoping to get down to about 225. I Started in 2x at 330 for shirts, and now im in 1x and happy to buy new or used
Affordable to me is about $100 an outfit
ish
I prefer shopping in person, but online can work
Timescale is fluid, soonish
next month or so
just want to start building out my wardrobe a bit a little at a time
I will get measurements as well
I will do that, thank you very much
do you measure man boobs?
hahahaha
At your budget, the answer is likely to be have some outfits in mind you've lifted from other people and go shop for them in person at the nearest place that has lots of options you can try on which might include Uniqlo, a&f, jcrew etc. You're lucky in that we're right on summer sale season so your money will go a bit further but $100 for an outfit is petty tight - once you've got an idea what fits that will open up online shopping and second hand shopping where your money will stretch further.
A cloth tape measure for a couple bucks is invaluable for measuring yourself and items of clothing that fit you to compare to others.
I just randombly though that number out there, I ont have a sense of how much an outfit costs admittedly
is 200 too much?
150?
I am not going to replace my entire wardrobe overnight, so maybe price is not an issue
$100 is workable, but say you want pants, a shirt and some other layer (t-shirt, jacket etc) or maybe some shoes the budget can get eaten pretty quick. But budget is really personal, don't sweat it too much - some of the best dressed people here are working with tight budgets or buy exclusively at the thrift store or whatever. When you're starting it's good to restrict your spending and go slow cos we all make purchasing errors.
Chest 50 inch waist 40
dressing for body type isnt super necessary, but if u wanna see some bigger guys fitted in #waywt search up digdug04 , shrimpest , rookroamer , classzclown , and me. im probably forgetting some but thats a dece place to start
the search for that is
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lots of great second hand clothes out there both in person at thrifts and on ebay/grailed/depop/etc
the main problem im having, is I dont know how to find a general style
i can find an outfit or two I like, but how does that help inform other things to build out a wardrobe
that takes time
dont expect to find it in a week or a month
but having a good eye for things that others are doing is a good place to start
look though that list of people that carrion put above and see if you can find styles in there that you like
if you find pictures of outfits you like, save them and when you have ten of those post them in here
You folks are so kind, thank you for your help, I mean it
ya dont feel like you need to rush into something just because you feel you should
unless you want to in which case gg
Excited to see what you come up with 🙂
im going to buy some things soon @scott
just want to reward myself for all this hard work
haha
excellent
at least a little
im just remembering the impulse of "oh raw denim is kind of cool" then buying like 10 pairs of basically the same jeans in slightly different weights and fabrics
or boots guys, etc.
I really want a leather jacket for some reason
I think its because I just turned 40
hahahaha
if you are into that awesome but if you think you will have patience for the long run, let your tastes marinate
not into that. I have a ton of jeans that I like and fit well, so thats not needed for me
but you did make me laugh because I could see myself doing that!
find those inspo photos
also look through waywt. while carrions list is all people around your measurements, we can def also point you in the direction of other things you like from photos of people in other sizes
let us know if theres anything else we can do to help 🙂
Feel free to critique these photos ideas
I cant tell if I like them because they are models and famous people
Or if regular people wearing those clothes would look silly haha
i dont think the celebrity aspect reads much for me, tbh
can you find a common denominator?
jackets and things over shirts
roughly speaking
vest, jacket, sweater
I love the suit coat look
the mike meyers one there
I love that look
for some reason
ive got vague memories of a former discord person saying "be more specific"
which is great advice
more specific than what I just said?
yes
How much more can I be?
jackets and things over shirt is grat
great
but there are many jackets and many shirts
why do you like these
ok, leather jackets, and suit coats
with jeans
better
I like chinos
and nice jeans
describe the vibe in 3 words or less
i cant
you should work on that, I think it will help!
yeah WARP has a ton of shit youd probably enjoy tbh
you are right! @carrion @WARP your fashion is fantastic!
https://discord.com/channels/1116793467654381685/1116800072093532191/1382747043449143468
https://discord.com/channels/1116793467654381685/1116800072093532191/1382062851560181840
This one! https://discord.com/channels/1116793467654381685/1116800072093532191/1368938636396990584
love this undershirt with the suit coat https://discord.com/channels/1116793467654381685/1116800072093532191/1367566768914301061
https://discord.com/channels/1116793467654381685/1116800072093532191/1362447640004137104 !!!
https://discord.com/channels/1116793467654381685/1116800072093532191/1359664503674900662
Is that enough stuff for some advice?
now you go look at clothes and see what you like that fits that aesthetic
and fits you
take the measurements of some garments that fit you well
and use those to build some outfits
highly recommend scouring for that stuff second hand. there is lots!
All of that generally looks good. I think the pants are generally slimmer than I would recommend. Slim fitting pants, especially with tapers look really 2010 coded in a not so good way
Levis 501 jeans are a good middle ground and a classic
Yeah!
I love Lucky jeans
those are my go to
anything that is going to be a wider straight cut is gonna be your best friend
because I am bigger, or because thats the current style?
I am going to keep dropping weight, so just trying to get a couple things along the way
as a treat
current style, but theres also great arguments that wider cuts are generally more versatile
they just tend to look better on average and they def look better on bigger guys
I see the highschool girls with those wide pants and white shoes
regardless of trends
it looks awful
haha
agree to disagree im a wide pant truther
all good
but we’re not advocating for you to go that wide (unless you wanna), something like a 501 or a 505
good benchmarks
lets keep the high school girls out of our discussion about your style
hahaha
they don't affect how you should dress
it was what I thought of when you said wide leg
I dont think I have ever worn wide leg before, I will check it out!
I'm telling you to avoid tapers like this
oh yes
that makes sense
stick to fuller leg cuts like these
thats not going to be great on me
yeah, those look great!
ok, I just dont understand the terms I think
thank you
its a tough part about starting to be more intentional with how you dress
Don't worry, most brands don't understand or agree on the terms either!
looking at pics is good for getting a general direction, then you can start identifying patterns in garments or outfits that pop up throughout the saved inspo, then you can research those pieces for terms or if you’re really lost, come back here and ask for help with that specific piece
i think it is a very universal experience to be resitant to new pant cuts
at the time i thought these were outrageously loose LOL
I used to think people were staring at me when I wore pants this wide
now I wear this
im not recommending that second pic to you, but the first pic is a good place to be
this is very true, my fav pair of pants at the moment sat in consignment for 5 months before i took them back - i thought they looked awful but in reality i just wasnt used to how wide they were or really know how to make it work
but yeah in general straighter, fuller cuts in pants
without tapers
Sounds great
I think I have a mental block about baggy clothes
leg opening is a good measurement to look at
It reminds me of my whole life and what im trying to get away from
so I want something more fitting
9" leg opening is probably the minimum you want to shoot for
I have worn them my whole life
but I would recommend 10.5"+ leg opening (flat lay so 21"+)
hey at the end of the day its all about wearing what you want to wear
but you came here for style advice so you're gonna get style advice
Wrangler is ur go to for jeans if u want to bite warps style at all, the wrangler cowboy cut specifically. Avoid the ones that are stretch denim tho.
Awesome thanks folks, I will see if I can find some of these peices at a thrift store nearby or order some online
Thrift stores around here have been sucking lately
too many people have been going there
And they removed the dressing rooms
lol
i dress in shorts and t-shirt when thrifting so i can put stuff on overtop lol
only other thing I'll add is to take things slow and be okay with not buying anything from a thrift store. it's better to wait for something great then buy a bunch of mid things you'll regret
Great advice, thank you!
A) thank you for the kind words
B) I wear almost exclusively what would be generally considered “wider” cuts, and almost always bootcut or flared at least somewhat so they fit over my cowboy boots. Wrangler cowboy cut, Levi’s 517 (orange tab vintage, the new ones suck) on the low end of the cost spectrum. sugarcane, mister freedom, Indigofera etc on the higher end. Shirts are almost universally two pocket pearl snap westerns. Wrangler and vintage stuff on the low end. Wythe, Saint Laurent, Celine, studio D’Artisan, west major on the high end. Tank tops and tees are all milsurp
You are welcome! And I need to say, your suits and suit coats are exquisite I would love to have stuff like that!
Find a good tailor and then pay them well for the rest of your life
All of my suiting is custom tailored to me
Doesn’t matter if it’s vintage or high end, I take it to my dude and he chops it up for me
What do you pay roughly for that?
It depends on the work tbh
If you do have access to a decent tailor, you can get cheap, great, second hand suit jackets and get them adjusted (as long as the shoulders fit right.) Probably the best value in second hand clothing going.