Giving Advice - Topic of the day 10/1/25
Trying to get fashion help can feel like drinking out of a fire hose. What tips do you have for giving good advice, both here and in real life?
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in general if some1 wants advice
i need shit like
also inspo pics
What’s wrong with drinking out of the fire hose the water is extra tasty
Depends on if the person really knows what they're looking for, if not, you help them narrow it down
It helps to differentiate between when advice is wanted and when affirmation is wanted, it’s not always obvious.
Advice on subjective things and objective things are also very different flavours.
Giving advice online is really hard bc I don't know anything about you. Almost literally any item of clothing can be worn well or poorly it just depends on your vibe and whether you have swag or not.
All of the info above is helpful but turly the best way to get good advice is to be a member of the community and asking folks whose opinions you already trust. It doesn't have to be here but asking a friend for their thoughts I think has a better likelihood of being productive than asking randoms on the internet.
That being said, inspo pics is better than anything else. Judging a fit in isolation is impossible bc idk what you want. So I can either just give you my opinion or say "it depends"
So I think feedback is really important
Watching and imitating others, studying style and fashion, etc., are all great ways to grow. But understanding the way you are seen by others is important element, as is the ability to filter what is useful and relevant and what is not.
Communicating what you're after and having people who know you definitely increases the quality of the feedback. But you can take a lot of feedback, and understand what the person is saying and where they are coming from and again filter it for what it's relevant to you.
This is definitely an old man take, but I feel like the ability to take a broad spectrum of feedback, and have the discretion to understand what you need and you don't, is becoming something of a lost art.
best advice about advice is to know when to give it. it's tempting to want to help, especially on the internet where expression is encouraged, but well-intentioned bad advice is still bad advice.
advice that ignores context (budget, aesthetic, lifestyle, any other factor) or is inaccurate is actively bad, worse than saying nothing
also try to separate your biases if giving someone feedback (or else don't answer) aka don't do this https://discord.com/channels/1116793467654381685/1423069258421895170/1423070009051320330
Wow that’s a thread that exists
Oh wow, I couldn't even tell for a moment if that guy was serious. I guess that's a good example of the sort of feedback you need to filter out🤣🤣🤣