Ok, some quick experiments, if I go back to spectators, and run that -r command, then I can re-spawn in an F14 and it does seem to properly initialize again. One of my test runs though, re-spawning in an F14 did result in a dead stick still, however changing to another plane and back to the F14 did fix it, but yeah, this is def a lot better than completely closing DCS and re-launching