mfad•9mo ago

How long did your wardrobe take to catch fire

How long before being conscious with purchased did you feel like you had a life full of fits?

I started paying attention like a few years ago and have consistent vibes but feel like some of youse walk around like grail Knights

kyn•4/16/25, 5:15 PM

years

nowhereface•4/16/25, 5:17 PM

I think there was never a time in my life where I wasn’t into fashion
I‘ve been doing this longer than I‘ve known how to read

kyn•4/16/25, 5:17 PM

yeah i had copies of fruits magazine 20 years ago

kyn•4/16/25, 5:18 PM

general advice

collect inspo from lookbooks, websites whose styling you like, IG, tiktok, etc
think about what you like in a given fit
don't buy a bunch of shit all at once
don't buy something just bc it's cheap
measure clothes you own and like the fit of and use that to inform whether clothes you see online (that have size guides/measurements listed) will fit

kyn•4/16/25, 5:18 PM

it's not a sprint, it's a marathon/constant practice and with time you'll figure out what feels right for you at any given moment

kyn•4/16/25, 5:19 PM

wrt buying grails specifically... depends
i've bought something i thought i wanted for years and ultimately been disappointed bc it didn't work for me the way i wanted to for whatever reason
but it's a lot easier to justify buying something more out there if you've tried it on, been looking for it for a while, know it fits into your wardrobe, etc and you can afford it

lyon•4/16/25, 5:19 PM

*don’t buy a bunch of shit all at once unless you’ve been frothing at the mouth for it continuously for a minimum of 6 mo

kyn•4/16/25, 5:20 PM

there are one million million million good-to-great quality used garments on ebay depop poshmark etc

kyn•4/16/25, 5:20 PM

for under $20 in many cases

kyn•4/16/25, 5:21 PM

if u want a quick and dirty guide on how to shop on ebay i posted ab it here questions-and-adviceBig Man Online Shopping

DukingtonOP•4/16/25, 5:22 PM

I've done my "buying loads of shit" and a good amount of inspo. I'm at the point where I only get a couple of things a season at most, unless they genuinely "fill a need" or a "gap"

kyn•4/16/25, 5:22 PM

i mean it's also all subjective right

kyn•4/16/25, 5:23 PM

if you want a minimalist capsule wardrobe that all works together you can have a closet full of fits in one trip to h&m/uniqlo/cos

DukingtonOP•4/16/25, 5:23 PM

So I feel like I am more like, finishing off some small gaps, making upgrades where I made poor choices or took a conservative venture to experiment

kyn•4/16/25, 5:23 PM

if you want a wardrobe that's cohesive but a little more involved it'll probably take some time

kyn•4/16/25, 5:23 PM

seems like you're doing it right

kyn•4/16/25, 5:24 PM

something i have really liked about this and other fashion communities is that in the time it's existed i've watched people's style evolve

kyn•4/16/25, 5:24 PM

so even if one day you have a closet full of fits that work it might not hit the same tomorrow

carrion•4/16/25, 5:37 PM

ive been pivoting from aesthetic to aesthetic like it's my fucking job dog ive spend more money on clothes in the last 15 years than ive made in that time it is never ending

jplicks•4/16/25, 5:37 PM

Yeah I feel like I started caring about clothes in late 2022 and I am just now starting to get glimpses of what I wear occasionally feeling like it measures up to my taste/inspo. But still only occasionally

Ccarrion ive been pivoting from aesthetic to aesthetic like it's my fucking job dog ive s...

kyn•4/16/25, 5:37 PM

hows brycelands era going

Jjplicks Yeah I feel like I started caring about clothes in late 2022 and I am just now s...

jplicks•4/16/25, 5:38 PM

Granted I did not have disposable income for much of that time, which slows you down. But I think it was a good thing in that I didn’t buy too much stuff I later regretted.

Kkyn hows brycelands era going

carrion•4/16/25, 5:38 PM

over it

Soup•4/16/25, 5:38 PM

I think I started posting here coming up on 2 years ago this summer. I thought I was cooking then and I look back and my fits were ass. Now I think I'm cooking lately and I'm very satisfied with my wardrobe. (ask me how I feel about that in another 2 years)

Jjplicks Granted I did not have disposable income for much of that time, which slows you ...

jplicks•4/16/25, 5:38 PM

Now am I going to buy stuff I’ll later regret now that I do have disposable income again? You bet your sweet ass I am.

Jjplicks Now am I going to buy stuff I’ll later regret now that I do have disposable inco...

jplicks•4/16/25, 5:40 PM

And as corny as it is, like everyone says it’s a journey not a destination. The point of being into clothes isn’t to reach some final grail wardrobe where you’re good, but enjoying the dynamic process of engaging with other people, culture, etc. which is the thing that makes clothes look/feel good in the first place.

jplicks•4/16/25, 5:40 PM

And if you’re not enjoying that it’s time to take a step back

kyn•4/16/25, 5:40 PM

I have known people who had like full vete or full kapital or full cdg or whatever wardrobes

kyn•4/16/25, 5:40 PM

and then one day been like

kyn•4/16/25, 5:40 PM

fuck this

kyn•4/16/25, 5:40 PM

and pivoted into something completely orthogonal

carrion•4/16/25, 5:41 PM

wtf do birds got to do with it

DDukington So I feel like I am more like, finishing off some small gaps, making upgrades wh...

Dev•4/16/25, 5:42 PM

Tbh I’ve felt like this for years. It’s a total Wardrobe of Theseus. It took years to really understand my interests, what I liked on me, how I liked clothes to fit. It took a lot of thinking and looking to understand the underlying motivations, interests, and ideas that form my identity, and to be able to put that out into the world and express myself through clothing took time as well. I’ve been interested in fashion since my late teens really.

It’s the same finding your style with any creative pursuit, whether that be photography, painting, music, skating, etc.

Even now that I feel like I have a good grasp and a good base, there are things I want to incorporate from other styles (Ivy, western)

rej•4/16/25, 6:19 PM

Still working on it. But I've been more or less circling the same vibe for the last ~5 years

myownmoses•4/16/25, 6:29 PM

I flipped my entire wardrobe in less than 10 months. I wasn’t intending to, but the combination of joining this server at a time when I was going through a bunch of personal changes (divorce, moving out of state, etc) put everything into hyperdrive. I hardly recognize my clothes from a year ago. I wouldn’t say my wardrobe is killer now, but at least I wear clothes that I appreciate and I enjoy getting dressed. That’s never really been true until last summer

levi•4/16/25, 6:51 PM

kind of a similar situation as moses

levi•4/16/25, 6:51 PM

bad breakup in november

levi•4/16/25, 6:52 PM

was used to someone fashionable dressing me

levi•4/16/25, 6:52 PM

in january i joined here and now all i think about is my next thrift find lol

levi•4/16/25, 6:53 PM

so im in the babyyyyy stages of this journey

DukingtonOP•4/16/25, 7:30 PM

I think one part of growth for me is going
I want to dress like a cowboy but I'm scared to put on a brand new western shirt from a big brand
And it isn't until I am comfortably wearing those that I get the confidence to be a little bit bolder with that same look, stuff that felt like fancy dress feels a bit muted and low effort now

za warudo•4/16/25, 7:30 PM

I got interested in fashion and overhauled my wardrobe last year because I got into a relationship. Now I'm kinda scared if I need to redo it if this relationship doesn't work out.

levi•4/16/25, 7:37 PM

there’s many more reasons to redo a wardrobe

levi•4/16/25, 7:38 PM

you might wake up and not enjoy the clothes you have anymore

chopper•4/16/25, 7:41 PM

Misread instructions, took blowtorch to my wardrobe to find out. About 10 minutes.

zeometer•4/16/25, 7:44 PM

inconclusive - it took years of trial and error to get better at picking clothes, deciding what i actually liked and wearing them.
that came with the realization that dressing is an extention of my personality rather than dictating it, which could also change as i go through life which is cool

zeometer•4/16/25, 7:48 PM

and that can and has changed with time; there's nothing wrong with it nor does it make you better or worse as a person

Socks•4/16/25, 8:54 PM

3 years. I had to learn how to enjoy things on other people and accept that I will only put on very basic things. I just need to add some jackets to go over those basic things.

Angrymiddleagedjew•4/16/25, 10:24 PM

Full disclosure: I'm significantly older than most of the posters here.

Honest answer: Within the last three years. Before that I spent aloooooot of money basically chasing trends and trying to dress however was in style at the time, not how I wanted to look. Nothing ever fit the way I wanted to, I had expensive shit but didn't enjoy wearing it.

I finally said fuck it, I'm just going to dress how I want to and started rebuilding. Realistically, I look much better now since I'm buying clothes that work for my body and my tastes rather than forcing myself into whatever is on trend.

And I've gotten to the point where I can be selective, and if something happens to be on trend but it will work with what I wear and I like it, I grab it.

Angrymiddleagedjew•4/16/25, 10:25 PM

I've gotten a few grail items over the past year or so but there's plenty more that I'm chasing.

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